Putting Together the Pieces. How?

Putting Together the Pieces. How?

With most of us at home, isolated, bored, and broken, there's a lot that we're missing. There's a sense of anxiety, and nervousness about the future, which we can't control. Here's how to take the first step towards gathering the broken pieces of our lives.    The concept of scarcity

With most of us at home, isolated, bored, and broken, there's a lot that we're missing. There's a sense of anxiety, and nervousness about the future, which we can't control. Here's how to take the first step towards gathering the broken pieces of our lives.   

The concept of scarcity and how it matters   

In the natural world, absence does not exist. It is something that the human mind has created. It is a concept that drives us to do things that we wouldn't normally do. It is an incredibly powerful social construct that creates situations like folks throwing punches at the grocery store for toilet paper. This cultural default that we're all a product of is the reason for this uproar. The dominant paradigm that we are all, in some way, contributing to the experience of haves v have nots is exhausting, whether we are on the 'have' or the 'have not' side. The existence of one creates the possibility of the presence of the other. It is essential to realize and understand that scarcity is just a concept created inside our minds, and is hence, manifested in our behaviors.  

It does not mean to say that you should take all the warning signs casually. If you're worried about how you're going to pay the rent or afford groceries during the COVID-19 pandemic, you should be concerned. The concept of scarcity is merely a product of our collective imaginations and agreements. It is the context behind our economy, romantic relationships, sexual ones, and even our views about ourselves. Despite the uncertainty surrounding us in every little aspect of our lives, we have to realize that it is a very reasonable time to get to the root cause of this scarcity thinking. We should work towards unearthing it and creating something more sustainable when we finally get out of this mess and on with our lives.  
 

The experiment  

We will try to show you how you can pick up the broken pieces. What you'll need for this is a pen, paper, and some uninterrupted solitude for some deep introspection. This exercise will take a little effort, and it aims to bring up some uncomfortable feelings or confront something ugly or dark from your past. The main objective is to unearth these elements for the sole purpose of making sure that you are not beholding them consciously or unconsciously. It will help you work through and face whatever personal challenges you're facing.  
 

Step one  

Think about the area of your life that you're most challenged in right now. Write this scenario down in detail. Now, Below I am giving you an example, so you get a sense of how to do this journaling.  

  • "Now that all of my gigs are  all canceled, I feel like I have to switch my career, but I am paralyzed with options because I don't want to make the wrong choice."  

Step two  

Next, you will have to analyze your narrative about this challenge. In other words, when you are speaking to yourself about this challenge, what are the exact words you're using to say it to yourself? Here are some examples. See if you're anywhere close.  

  • "I'm afraid that if I make the wrong choice about a career direction at this age, I won't have any more time."   

Step three  

Now that you're through the first two steps, we are going to analyze these thoughts. We are going to get to the root cause by asking a series of WHY questions to ourselves. It is very crucial at this stage that you remember to ask WHY to each previous WHY that you asked yourself. The point here is to get deeper and deeper into the same challenge. Avoid switching your gears and accidentally paving the way to changing to another topic. The other important thing you need to remember is to answer each WHY by starting with an answer that begins with an "I" statement, as in, "I believe" or "I think…"  

Going back to the top  example, ask yourself, "Why do I believe this?"   

 Ask yourself, "Why do I believe that?" Be brutally honest with yourself from here on out. We just scratched beneath the surface.  

  • "I don't think I'm good at anything. I don't have any real skills or talents."  

Why do you think that?  

  • "I'm not sure I'll amount to anything."  

And why do you think that?   

  • "I believe I'm worthless."   

The process we followed has made us think about the route to the actual thing. The process is more important than the destination. Think of this as something you have to work towards. These are the thoughts and beliefs that you have, which are often far from the truth. We may not have much control over our circumstances or the external factors around us, but we can always change our beliefs. We can create an affirmation that is the antidote to this belief. We can create a self-love regiment that deals with our sense of unworthiness. We can chat with our trusted confidants and get their take on who they think we are, rather than the story we tell ourselves about who we are.